Need2Obey is a recurring fetish social for guys who are into power exchange, especially using erotic hypnosis. Get to know others who are into the same thing as you: control, domination, submission, and a good mind-fuck. Learn about hypnosis, and how you can use it as a tool for erotic control and pleasure.
It's a social event for people into power exchange, especially erotic hypnosis.
A lot of BDSM play involves the dominant physically controlling the submissive: restraining his body with ropes or chains, applying force if he disobeys. Erotic hypnosis is like BDSM, but on a mental level: using hypnotic suggestions and commands to restrain and control the submissive, so that he is compelled to do as he is told. You can even cause sensations of pain or pleasure without using physical interactions! (Although physical interactions can make the experience even more intense...)
Hypnosis is extremely safe; it cannot force anyone to do anything that they are not comfortable with doing. If you are hypnotized, you can take control of your own mind any time that you want or need to. You can also come out of a hypnotic trance at any time you want.
Hypnosis can definitely reduce inhibitions, or remove them entirely. If you have certain curiosities or fantasies that you normally keep tightly locked away in your mind, you might find that being hypnotized allows you to explore and experience those fantasies. You might find yourself doing things that you would have never dreamed you could do, because you are normally too shy, too afraid of what others might think of you. It can be confronting and embarrassing to come out of a hypnotic trance and realize what the hypnotist “made” you do.
But there's a big difference between being “made” to do something that you wanted to try, and being forced to do something that you genuinely don't want to do. The first option is possible with hypnosis; the second option is not.
Of course! There will be a good mix of experienced and inexperienced people at the event. If you don't know much about hypnosis and you want to learn, this is a great opportunity to ask questions. If you're comfortable with it, you could even try getting hypnotized; or try hypnotizing someone else! It's a safe and friendly environment to explore something new.
Probably! There will be a few hypnotists and plenty of subjects, so there will be lots of opportunities for hypnosis sessions. If you want to hypnotize someone, or to be hypnotized, just ask!
As with many other fetish communities, the erotic hypnosis community has an imbalance in roles: there are always more people who want to be hypnotized, than there are people who want to hypnotize others! (Just like there are always more submissives than dominants, more bottoms than tops, and so on.)
Definitely! Flipping the script can be a lot of fun. It's possible to use hypnosis to help someone to be more dominant and devious in sexual situations, and you can even hypnotize others to “make” them dominate you in the ways you want!
Possibly, but only in a specific area of the event. If you do not want to see or be around sexual activity, you can stay out of that area.
Bears Amsterdam is split into two levels. The ground floor is only for socializing and flirting. The entire upstairs area of the bar is a darkroom, where sexual activity is allowed. Only men are allowed in the darkroom, and you must buy at least one drink from the bar before you can enter.
Most people at Need2Obey will be on the ground floor, available for conversation and non-sexual hypnosis sessions. If you are interested in doing something more sexual, you may do so — but only upstairs. It's easy to switch from one space to another, and you may do so as many times as you want to.
If you choose to engage in penetrative sex, note that Bears Amsterdam offers free condoms at the bar. We suggest that you discuss safe sex pratices with your partner, ideally before any play that leads in that direction. If things go there unexpectedly, you can and should bring yourself out of a trance headspace, so that you can discuss this before proceeding.
This is a big topic, and there are plenty of resources on the internet that can help answer this question more completely. As a brief overview: sexual advances (including touches) are expected, but consent is respected. If someone indicates they want to play with you and you are not interested in doing so, politely but firmly tell them no, and move their hand away if necessary. If you do want to play with them: have fun!
We recommend listening to the “Beginner's Bathhouse Guide” episode of the Kinkyboys Podcast to get more information. It's not quite the same topic, but it's very similar; and HairyHypnotist is the guest for this episode, so you can hear his voice and his perspective.
No. Bears Amsterdam will be open for all customers during the Need2Obey social event. That means you will almost certainly encounter people at the bar who know nothing about hypnosis; some of those people will be interested in learning about it, and some will not. If you go upstairs to the darkroom, you will probably encounter some men who are only interested in vanilla sexual activities, rather than exploring erotic hypnosis.
Yes! We intend to run this social event once every three or four months, and to form a stable, friendly community of people who are interested in erotic hypnosis.
If a lot of people are interested in this event, we may move future events to a private venue. This would ensure that everyone in the venue is interested in erotic hypnosis; participants would need to buy a ticket to get in.
While Need2Obey is hosted at Bears Amsterdam, it is free of charge! However, future Need2Obey events may require buying a ticket, particularly if we move to a private venue.
There's no dress code, so you may wear whatever you want. This is a social event, not a play party, so comfortable street clothing is perfectly acceptable. Bonus points if you wear a hypnosis-themed T-shirt!
That said, if you want to wear something more eye-catching, you're welcome to do so! Bears Amsterdam even has a coat check and lockers, so you don't have to carry the clothes you don't want to wear. (Both are paid, and there is no changing area aside from the toilets.)
Bears Amsterdam is a gay bar that caters primarily to men. Women and people of other genders are allowed inside, as long as they respect the identity of the space. As a result, people of all genders are allowed to attend Need2Obey.
However, only men (male presenting people) are allowed in the darkroom area upstairs.
Safety is important, and if you're feeling unsafe, then you should tell someone who is able to help. You can always ask for help at the bar, and that is the best option if the person who makes you feel unsafe is not associated with the Need2Obey event.
If you are feeling unsafe due to someone who is there for Need2Obey, please inform the organizers of the event: David (HairyHypnotist) or Frank (Frank_NL). One or more of them will address the situation immediately. You can also still ask for help at the bar, if you prefer.
Need2Obey is organized by Master David the HairyHypnotist, along with his slaves. Want to know more about Need2Obey, or about erotic hypnosis? Send him a message, and he would be happy to answer your questions!